Why not a woman cave???

You know, men have been talking about "man caves" for a long time now.  I think there is even an HGTV show called Man Caves so why don't women have caves?  I have always wanted...no, NEEDED an exclusive space to myself.  In the beginning, when my parents lived in a huge British style bungalow in a corner of India, I would sneak out in the mornings to rest my face on the cool stone columns of our front porch or climb the guava tree in my grandma's garden to get away from it all.  Though I never really shared a bedroom with anyone as a child, locking myself in my own room was not enough. I HAD TO GET AWAY OUTDOORS!

The need to get away has intensified tenfold in my adult life, no space in the house will do since I always feel like cleaning it up or can't be sure that someone wont burst in on me.  My tree climbing days are over and I am never quite sure where I could go. The home office is too much of a public space.  My master bedroom door does not lock and as a result kids run through the master suite like it is a secondary playground. I've tried converting my closet into an office space thinking it would be more private than my bedroom but I just end up wanting to clean and organize.  I've tried pretty much every other space in the house, the kitchen, the guest bedroom, the breakfast table, and on and on.

I try outside, the deck is too easily seen from my kitchen, my yard feels wide open, not enough nooks or comfy hiding spaces to get away there. My house, not sufficient.  What is a woman to do?

Why not a woman cave???

Okay, so I have had the worst, worst, worst tummy ache since Monday morning and it will not go away!  Tummy aches are not the best things for fashion, I don't feel like wearing anything other than my softest oldest pjs.  I feel like my tummy is sticking out about 4 inches more than usual and there is nothing I can do about it. I hate it, i need a woman cave to crawl into!

Fashion Diet over Labor Day

I had to do it, I took hubby and the kids to North Georgia Mountains for hiking and a spectacular luncheon at Montaluce Winery.  Afterward, we toured the Tuscan style villas on the property which the girls loved.  We happened to bump into some Naturalists on our pre-lunch hike, they taught us all about poison ivy, and growing wild flowers in Ga.  I was so inspired, I bought some rooting powder.  I am on the look out for some honeysuckle cuttings, so let me know if you have some in your yard and are willing to let me snip a few branches.
I know, I know, you want to know if I was fashionably dressed for the winery.  I admit, it was a balancing act since we wanted to go hiking and then the winery.  I wore a shirt dress with a casual jacket thrown on top for the hike, then took the jacket off for the winery and that seemed to work.  I felt relaxed and casual without looking like I was going to the gym.
I bought a new dress for the month, yes, it has sleeves!  The new dress did double duty and was worn for social events both on Sat and Sunday night.  I think I got my $20 worth from it so now am ready to wear it during the day.
Lots of people have found it necessary to comment on my gray roots, thank you good friends ;-) not to worry, I am finally getting my hair colored and cut today!! Not ideal, since I won't be seen socially after it, but soooooo overdue that I don't care.
All in all, I think the fashion diet is still ON!  Instead of wearing something really worn out, I even took the time to wear a nice casual dress to hang out in the house all day yesterday.

Fashion Diet Day 3

I am doing well today!  Back on track, I think...exfoliated like nobody's business this morning after some moderate exercise.  Blackened my shameful gray roots with an Oscar Blandi touch-up pen.  That pen is starting to be too much of a crutch but it has been over 8 weeks since my last color and my colorist can't get me in until next week.  I am getting on a 6 week schedule with that magician (Renee at Salon Verde in Roswell) starting with the next one, can't let this happen again while I am on the fashion diet.  Renee is a real life fashion icon for me, she is always dressed casually chic, her hair is always carefully styled in a sexy messy semi up-do and her make up is understated perfection.  I get inspiration every time I spend some time with her.

Decided on a nice cool dress today so hopefully I wont have to change when it gets into the 90's outside like it did yesterday. I would like to post pictures but it is a girl thing... I am way too bloated to photograph well this week and blogging is supposed to be a confidence booster so I will start posting pictures when I feel I can take the scrutiny.

BTW, I made these muffins yesterday that are incredible so I thought I would share the recipe:

Ingredients

• 1 cup milk (I used almond milk)
• 1 cup quick cooking oats
• 1 egg
• 1/4 cup vegetable oil (I think you can substitute apple sauce, I'll try that next time to make them really healthy)
• 1 cup all-purpose flour (I used whole wheat flour)
• 1/4 cup white sugar
• 2 teaspoons baking powder
• 1/2 teaspoon salt
• 1 cup chocolate chips

Directions

1. Preheat oven to 425 degrees F (220 degrees C). Grease muffin cups or line with paper muffin liners.
2. In a small bowl, combine milk and oats; let soak for 15 minutes.
3. In a separate bowl, beat together egg and oil; stir in oatmeal mixture add the flour, sugar, baking powder and salt. Stir flour mixture into wet ingredients, just until combined, fold in the chocolate chips. Spoon batter into prepared muffin cups until cups are 2/3 full.
4. Bake in preheated oven for 20 to 25 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into the center of a muffin comes out clean.

Fashion Diet Day 2

The first day of any diet is fun even exhilarating but usually by the second day, I want to go back to eating my usual fodder of pita bread with peanut chutney and diet coke.  I remember trying to fake my way through the GE...maybe it's the GM diet, I forget which.  Monica and Deven lost lots of weight on that diet and were surprised when i told them I had not lost any.  Deven caught me, when he asked what I'd been eating.  "You Fool" he said in his usual style, "you are not supposed to eat pita on this diet, no wonder you didn't see any results".

I am determined not to fake the fashion diet!  I think I have prepared well for day 2 of the fashion diet.  I had my exercise clothes laid out last night; this morning I got up and pulled on a cute gray workout ensemble before I stepped out of my room.  I felt more energized knowing that I looked pulled together from the get go.  Even my kids seemed to respond to me more readily than they usually do.   Confident in the knowledge that I had moisturized well last night, I showed the bottoms of my feet in yoga class without any embarrassment.


End of the day now, and the outfit I had chosen for the rest of the day was a complete miss!!!!! I was so stifled by it that ended up changing out of it for a comfy choice...basic black canvas dress which has been my favorite this summer...back to the pita and peanut chutney I am afraid.  Since it was a miss, I am not posting the pictures that my hubby was kind enough to take.

I did do well with the rest of my beauty regimen, I curled my hair (something I haven't done in years), used the nose strips I had promised myself, combed my hair multiple times throughout the day, etc.